Answer from the “Ask an Expert” Column

First of all, we want to say: you’re not alone. Many parents face this situation, and it can cause severe exhaustion and anxiety.
It’s important to understand that this kind of behavior isn’t always an attempt to “manipulate.” Often, it’s a sign that the child is having a very hard time managing their emotions, is unable to express their needs, or is feeling overwhelmed.

What can you do?

• First and foremost, ensure your child’s safety. If there’s a risk of injury, carefully remove any dangerous objects nearby.
• Try to stay calm. Loud reprimands, punishments, or yelling usually only intensify the emotional reaction.
• Observe what specifically precedes this behavior. Does it occur after a restriction? In a new place? During loud noises, when the child is overtired, or when their usual routine is disrupted? These observations will help you identify the cause.
• Once the child has calmed down, offer support. During a strong emotional reaction, a child often needs not a lecture, but a sense of safety and support.

If such situations recur frequently, become more intense, or if the child harms themselves, we recommend consulting a psychologist or other relevant specialist. An individual consultation will help you understand the causes of this behavior and find effective ways to support your child specifically.